The Art of Letting Go: Releasing Old Patterns and Embracing New Beginnings
As we navigate our personal healing journeys, we will inevitably encounter times of regression, where self-defeating thoughts and past frustrations resurface. It may feel like we are getting nowhere, but please know this is not the case at all! When we embark on a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and healing ourselves back to wholeness, it can feel like the work is never done. And in my experience, it never is.
This is not to discourage you; it's to acknowledge that healing is not linear, and it is unrealistic to assume we will never struggle after we “heal.” The struggle becomes less harsh as we continue to grow and show up for our highest good. Over time, we will face recurring challenges, and as we develop more self-awareness, we can begin to loosen our grip on past pains and traumas embedded deep in our psyche.
Embracing the Hard Times as Gifts
I like to think of hard times as beautiful gifts that help me grow. They serve as reminders of where I am still wounded and holding on. By leaning into this discomfort, we can slowly release, let go, and gain more capacity for tough feelings. Just like mastering any skill in life, achieving inner peace requires repetition and practice.
When I encounter hard feelings from the past, ones I thought I had conquered, I am learning to lean in and hold these feelings with love. By connecting with their texture, colour, and location within me, I find that as my capacity for these feelings grows, they no longer grip me as they once did. Eventually, they wash over me and away, leaving me with more clarity and wisdom, and allowing me to connect deeper within myself each time.
The Power of Surrender
Surrender has become my greatest teacher. Surrendering to what is, to exactly what I’m feeling without judgment, fighting, or suppression is incredibly therapeutic. Emotions, at all levels, are there to show us where we still ache, where we hold onto the past, or where we are lit up and excited. They are little inner maps guiding us to piece the complex puzzle of the self together.
I encourage you to join me in a radical act of self-love and kindness. Next time you feel fired up, angry, sad, or frustrated about the past or someone from the past, let it flow. Lean in and feel what wants to be felt. This is how we naturally let go over time—through acceptance, surrender, compassion, and forgiveness.
A Gentle Approach to Letting Go
Letting go doesn’t have to be forceful or painful. Adopting a gentle and compassionate mindset can make the journey more manageable and deeply healing. This gentle approach is a very feminine, soft energy that will help hold you through these times. It allows your body and psyche to release in a soft and accepting way. The more we consciously let go of the past and the pain we still carry, the more we can fully know our potential and authentic selves.
Self-compassion is key
Acknowledge your emotions with kindness, allowing yourself to feel without judgment. This creates a safe space for healing.
Patience is crucial
Healing isn't a race; allow the process to unfold naturally, easing the pressure to "move on" quickly.
Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness practices like meditation and deep breathing help you stay present and connected to your emotions, making it easier to let go.
Be around your people
A supportive community of friends, family, or a healing circle provides encouragement and reassurance.
Daily rituals
Journaling, lighting a candle, or spending time in nature can symbolise and reinforce your commitment to letting go.
Holding onto old patterns has served a purpose, but with love, it’s time to let go. You are safe, you are worthy, and you are loved. If you’re ready to start your healing journey, get in contact with me! I can help you ease into it in a safe, comfortable, loving, caring way.